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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Marry a man whose mother worked, ladies.

https://www.mommyish.com/sons-working-moms-housework/

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I did.  MIL worked full time, starting when DH was 3.  Unfortunately, she also did absolutely everything else.  So, DH's role models for parenting were a father who was a complete slob and never once lifted a finger to help out, and a mother who worked full time and handled all child/household duties.  
When we were dating, he swore that he would never turn into his father, because he saw the toll it took on his mother, and he wanted better for his own family.  I bought that hook, line, and sinker.  Guess what happened?  He works and then uses his free time on computer games and several hobby projects.  He does at least mow the yard, so I guess there's that.  We have a sweet, beautiful DD who loves her Daddy and doesn't understand why Daddy doesn't want to play with her.  I have to be the one to make excuses for him: "Daddy's busy right now."  ALL the damn time.
He wants another kid.  No way is that happening.[/quote]
IMO, most men are selfish and immature, even after baby arrives. They don't want to change their lives to accommodate a child. [b]They think as long as the child has food and clothes, their job is done.[/b]  Of course, it's usually the mom who prepares the food and makes sure the child has appropriate clothing.[/quote]

This sounds like you're speaking about 50s-era dads.  I'm 40, and I don't know any dads in my age range or younger who are like this.[/quote]

I'm the PP from 10:08.  We're 40, we both work full-time, and I know LOTS of dads in my age range who are similar.
When DH is actually participating in family life, he is an awesome dad, and DD adores him.   But I have to nag until I'm practically blue in the face for that to happen, and I hate to feel like I'm a nagging b!tch all the time.  He will admit that he gets too caught up in whatever his interests are, but the behavior pattern never changes.  [b]If it wasn't for DD, I would [/b]leave.[/quote]

For your DD, you should either leave or [b]grow up[/b].  [/quote]

Oh, I'm plenty grown up.  You know nothing about my life, or how I handle things in person, as opposed to how I vent anonymously online.  But, yes, if I'd known this ahead of time, I would not have made the decision to marry and have a child with this man, no matter how much I love him.  Unfortunately, hind sight is 20/20, and I do not want to subject DD to divorce just because I disapprove of the level of involvement of DH.[/quote]

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