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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]By recognizing my spouse is human and human's make mistakes.  By evaluating behavior over time and not a moment in time.  By understanding that we are all tempted, and I was not perfect in the marriage either.  By taking account of the pros and cons of staying together or divorcing and seeing which one made sense for me and our kids.

All that noted, I agree with others that if OP has no base of love to work with, the cheating is irrelevant.  Amicably split.[/quote]
Is it actually a"mistake," or a choice made daily to cheat and lie? [/quote]

Well of course it's a choice, just as it's a choice to get fat, to stop having sex with your spouse, to have not gotten a good enough job to provide a good living, to eat poorly and get diabetes, to buy take out instead of making a nutritious meal.  The point is we aren't perfect, and you can choose your hill to die on because your spouse will disappoint you at some point for some reason.  You can accept they are human and imperfect or move on to the next.[/quote]

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