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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just keep your plan the way it is. You’ll be able to spend a wonderful holiday with your extended family without having to accommodate a baby’s needs and schedule. Your wife can relax at home with the baby and celebrate Christmas with her family. You can Skype every day. [/quote]

+1 and I am DW.
I would totally prefer to spend Christmas with my baby and parents rather than traveling abroad with 1 y.o. to see ILs or staying home with unhappy DH.
Have to add that we are atheists and Christmas is just another holiday. 
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Yeah...  and if I convince her to go, and we get stuck in an airport after cancelled/delayed flights.. she will be blaming me for making her change her mind.

I might just try to have our first Christmas together as a family before I go and try to have a positive attitude about not having to worry about a baby for a week ...

I do feel some resentment toward her though for skipping this reunion. We see her family for literally every holiday.....[/quote]

I get it, but are you being realistic about how much baby duty you'll do on the trip if she comes? Or will you ask/hope that she go back to room for nap and bedtime while you get to hang out with your family? You know, because "it doesn't make sense for both of us to sit with the baby." How about entertaining the baby during meals, etc. I have walked miles and miles with my kids outside restaurants while my family sat inside at the bar, ate a lesiurely dinner, etc. Will that be you? And don't expect your mom or other relative to do it. BTDT. Promises of help that never fully materialize because she is also enjoying catching up with people.

Honestly, your wife is doing you a favor by giving you this week to enjoy. Your entire family is unlikely to make all their plans around a 13 month old's schedule and needs and.you and/or your wife will end up feeling isolated and annoyed most of the time. Really. I've been there. [/quote]

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