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If you know her to be an otherwise courteous, decent kid, then there is no reason to disinvite her.

If you don't know her at all, or you fear she might try to sneak alcohol or vape in to your party, then no.

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I don’t know her well. She’s a newish friend to DD. They met in the fall arts elective. She started socializing lightly with DD’s circle, but also kept other groups of friends. I have known her to be courteous when she came to my home or I gave her a ride home. I felt uncomfortable that she always had a lot of cash and a lot of freedom to move about in the evening without checking in with her parents.

I absolutely worry that she might vape weed in my home. I can hardly ask to search her.[/quote]

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Hmm. My son is in 8th grade. He reports other kids doing stupid stuff. I remember one boy in my elite private school stealing calculators to sell them. I reported him, he was duly punished, and he turned out OK. At that age, I think you're allowed to make mistakes. I would not disinvite her. It's one party, for goodness' sake, and this girl has just been suspended - she's already punished by the proper authorities. You'll be present at the party, no one is going to get drunk and kill themselves driving, that's a battle for high school :-)

I think the most important thing is to continue talking with your children and telling them to be careful about who their close friends are. My son has gradually become much better at choosing his friends! Again, this is all practice for the much scarier lives of high schoolers. Build trust, and use all these incidents as talking points with your kids.

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