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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parenting them doesn't mean controlling them.  It means teaching them to make good decisions.  If they insist on sweatpants, and are hot, they probably won't do it again.

Whereas telling them what to wear every day means kids who can't make good decisions because they've never been empowered to make any that matter.

So you go ahead and call people lazy.  Good luck when your child rebels against all of your controlling ways. [/quote]

So if your kid wants to stay up all night playing video games you’ll let them because you don’t control them? Or leave food to rot in their rooms? Or stay outside playing all night? Ride a bike without a helmet? Where’s the line? Or do you only slack on parenting when other people have to help your child deal with the consequences?[/quote]

pick your battles, friend. [/quote]

Right, don’t fight the battles you don’t have to deal with all day. That’s what the teacher is for.  :roll:

Teaching your kids how to function isn’t a battle, it’s parenting. Pick your battles = I’m too lazy to deal with this[/quote]

We can agree to disagree. I (and many in this thread) think that teaching a kid to function involves helping them learn how to make good decisions in a variety of circumstances, not doing everything for them. My upbringing was very much about instilling values and setting good examples and then letting my 5 siblings and me make our own decisions and live with the consequences. Drawing lines when appropriate (i.e., bedtime, limits on TV, etc), but keeping them pretty broad and letting us make our decisions. It worked out fine for all of us and we are all extremely successful and responsible professionals.

And it shifts over time. I was more prescriptive about what he wore when he was 4 than I am now that he's 7. I think screen time is another decent example. He has a kindle with freetime so I can set a certain amount of time on apps, videos, etc. Once that time is done, it's done. So if he wants to spend 30 minutes on apps and 30 minutes on videos first thing Saturday morning, he knows that's it for the day. His choice, his consequence.

Ironically, he thinks I'm way too strict.

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