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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're blowing their reactions out of proportion.

You told them you aren't finding out, and they responded by saying, "I could never do that. I'm a planner." NBD.

What response did you want?

"That's awesome!"

What if someone told you they were flying to Africa next week but didn't plan to do any research or book a hotel. A reasonable response might be, "I couldn't do that. I'm a planner."

They aren't judging you. They're merely responding as part of a conversation.

I'm sure you will feel similarly judged or interpret harsh reactions when people offer unsolicited advice or commentary. Brace yourself.[/quote]

Hardly.  People who say "I couldn't do that, I'm a planner" is not judgmental, at least not to me.  (Although comparing it to flying to Africa without doing any research or booking a hotel is ridiculous. 
 There was nothing we were not able to prepare for, well in advance, despite not knowing what genitalia our kid had.)  But people sometimes had other reactions--real annoyance that we weren't finding out, accusing us of knowing and not telling, and claims that we were just trying to special or attention-seeking.  Look at the posts here, claiming that people who don't find out are obnoxious, pretentious, etc.  People absolutely do judge this decision, and some of them express it in fairly impolite ways, and it's nonsense.  I have no problem blowing off unsolicited advice or commentary, but it's silly to pretend that people don't offer it, and that it's sometimes annoying.

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