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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Never, really.  Even when they are at school I'm the one on call.  It's not like I can head to Rehobeth and for a beach day and relax and drink margaritas.  I can get stuff done around the house, I can run errands, I can work out but I need to be ready to snap to it and pick a kid up as needed.[/quote]

This is true for almost everyone. [/quote]

It’s not true for her husband.  Or mine.  [/quote]

Well, its likely true for all moms [b]whether they sahm or not, we're all on call.[/b] [/quote]

Agreed.  DH and I both WOH.  I'm the one on-call, always.  In 3 years, he's taken one sick day home with DD, and that occurred while I was out of town on business travel.  
I'll admit it is a bit messed up (especially because he earns more leave than I do), but that's how it goes.  [/quote]

If you are going out of town on business travel you are not on call all the time.  You just aren't.  Either your husband has responsibility for the kids or you have flown a relative in or you have a nanny.  [/quote]

Some of us have jobs that don't require travel.  We are on call, all the time, just like you say you are, and we also work.  So cry me a river.[/quote]

I'm the PP who had business travel.  2 weeks in 3 years.  That's it.  And, yes, grandparents assisted for most of that.
So, fine.  I wasn't "on call" for 2 out of 156 weeks.  [/quote]

That is two weeks more than I've had in the past 19 years, DP.  But, your situation was one reason that dh and I decided that it would be good for me to SAH in the first place.  It was not easy for us financially at first but after a point it started to pay off. Again, there is no one "right" way.  What was hard for you when they were little probably became a lot easier for you as your kids got older. You now have a 2 career family and your kids are less work - there is definitely a benefit to doing things the way that you have done them.[/quote]

My child is 3, so I wouldn't exactly call it "less work" just yet.  But, yes, there's pros and cons to both approaches. I guess my whole point was that, at least in my experience and that of nearly all of my friends with children of similar age, one parent is the "on call" parent, whether that's a SAHP or not.  With the exception of 2 weeks' worth of business travel for me, my DH has never once had to worry about leaving work early or being called out of a meeting to pick up DD.  I don't have the same luxury.
But, since I've actually caught a break for 2 weeks in that regard, my opinion is irrelevant.[/quote]

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