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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up in a small rural town in Minnesota, and my parents NEVER talked about my future life as a mother or a wife. They encouraged me to be a curious child, educate myself, and [b]contribute to society[/b]. Discussions of baby names, dream husbands, and the like, never happened. [/quote] I’m from the south, but same. [/quote] Two questions. One: you don't think that devoting yourself to motherhood is "contributing to society?" Two, what exactly is your wonderful contribution?[/quote] +1. And why is "discussion of baby names, dream husbands, etc" such a forbidden topic of conversation? Don't most people want to eventually settle down with someone they love and have children with them? Why do we have to act like something that is normal and desired by most humans is something that can't be discussed with our kids. Especially, heaven forbid, our daughters? [/quote] It's not forbidden. But if you're gonna do it, do it with your sons too. And teach them that they too need to put in work to make healthy marriages and families work. “We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man. Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same?" - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie[/quote]
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