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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, let him go to a nursing home.  He will get better care in a nursing home than you can provide.  Spend your time, energy, and money ensuring that the nursing home is providing approrpriate care.  You're describing a very sick individual who  is going to require 24 hour attention.  You work FT and have 3 kids under 6.  It is NOT being a good person to accept care of someone that you don't actually have the resources to care for.  [/quote]

+1 - You sound like you have good intentions, but you simply aren't going to be able to give him the kind of care environment he needs without being heavily involved yourself. Even if the facility isn't top notch, it will at least be clean and staffed with certified caregivers.  Step-MIL and your family visiting frequently will help.

Also, with 3 kids under 6, you are right in the middle of the house being "safe" for them.  Your FIL and likely your MIL won't be able to adjust to that standard.  I would worry about medications being left out and who knows what else.  When my kids were little my in-laws couldn't even be bothered to keep baby gates in place on their very steep stairs when we visited.[/quote]

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