Reply to Issues to consider when inviting very ill FIL and wife to live in our home

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Issues to consider when inviting very ill FIL and wife to live in our home"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]When my two kids were small, my uncle and aunt moved in to be near a hospital where my uncle was being treated for cancer.

My aunt had previously had a stroke and she was sweet but needed a bit of help herself.

OP, they only stayed a few months, but in that time I realized I was being crushed by the sandwich situation and way over my head.

It became impossible to figure out how to get them OUT of my house.

I'm saying this because the nature of all traps are that they are one-way situations...you go down that road, and you think, if I don't like it or if it doesn't work, I'll have options.  But this is, in a practical sense, not true.  The effort required to get ourself OUT of this situation, if it's not working and they are living with you, is unsurmountable.  You and your DH will be so overly swamped, you won't have a second to figure out how to escape, let alone make the Plan B happen.

OP, my mom was a geriatric nurse and I've seen a lot of elderly in my life.  I'm older now and have had to deal with a lot of elderly in my family.  This is a really big thing, because (for better or worse) modern medicine drags out the lifespan of someone who can be in seriously bad shape.  In the old days where family took care of family, people could not possibly linger in the horrible quality of life conditions they can nowadays; they would have passed.  The toll of this is terrible on them and terrible on those who care for them.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics