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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are you asking if you should go to the park? Did you want him to come with you? Just make a decision and leave.[/quote]

This is what I was thinking. Why can't you just make a decision?  You're an adult with a marriage and child but you can't decide if there's time to go to the park or not? COME ON!  You sound indecisive and naggy. I wouldn't want to answer you either.  JUST DECIDE.[/quote]

Op here. We have a baby (10 weeks old) and a toddler. My decisions affect him. If I left with toddler he’d have to watch the baby and figure out dinner. If he came with us then we would have grabbed dinner out together.

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So basically your conversation and first couple of follow ups were a lot of blather that didn’t address the issue you wanted to discuss.

Me: I’m taking toddler to the park. Do you want to come with us and grab dinner while we’re out, or keep the baby at home and make dinner?

DH: answers with his choice

Try being direct. If you have a question, ask it. My DH has HFA and he tunes out most of the nonsense he doesn’t need to know. If I needed him to be on baby duty, he’d never hear it couched in a bunch of park talk. I have adhd, and it would take me a little while to process that you’re really asking about dinner and childcare, not asking me if I’m cool with you taking the kids to the park. I’m giving my perspective on those two issues since other posters are bringing up adhd and hfa. Even if he’s bored and zoning out without a medical condition, being direct is probably helpful. [/quote]

Op here. No-when I was asking him, I was actually asking for his input, not just blathering or trying to obfuscate the point by talking about the park. I was unsure if we had time, unsure if DH would enjoy coming or if he wanted to stay home, I didn’t know how we would fit dinner in, etc. I don’t want to decide everything. I wanted to decide together how to spend the last couple hours of our Sunday. I was open to his input.

I’ve got a more demanding job than DH does and we barely even see each other during the week due to work, commutes, work travel, etc. There’s nothing weird about wanting to talk to my DH for 90 seconds about how to spend the rest of our day.[/quote]

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