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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, I agree with everyone. The biggest problem is that OP is approaching this as a standard affair where the infidelity is between the husband and wife. The parents decide how they want to handle it and present their decision as a united front to the children. Sure, some kids are angry and feel betrayed but they are never directly involved.

In OPs case, the DH was caught by the daughter. She had to first deal with the disgust/anger on her own and muster up the courage to tell her mom. Then the biggest betrayal of all - her dad calls her a liar. And after her father breaks her trust in the sleaziest of ways - her mom wants her to forgive and forget.

Like it or not OPs DH INVOLVED his children in his affair. The regular approach does not work when the adulter is gaslighting the kids and making them a party to his actions. Your DH was emotionaly abusive to your daughter. You have deal with abuse before you deal with infidelity not the other way around.

I also really wonder if your daughter told you everything she knows about her father’s affair... She might have witnessed a lot more filth than youre aware of OP. [/quote]

Kids are absolutely involved as time and resources of that parent are diverted to the AP (and it doesn't matter if it was this particular woman because if it wasn't her it would be someone else).  Dad could spend the time he spent with the AP with the kids.  Dad could have spent the money on the families needs or savings for retirement or college.[/quote]

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