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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again, just to clarify, she is not reading YA romances. This book is definitely for adults. Please folks, I need some useful advice and not a DCUM putdown festival. [/quote]

It’s fine, honestly. I read adult sexual romance very early too. It didn’t make me less of a person. I didn’t lose my virginity early or have multiple partners.  I got good grades, and read a lot. All will be fine.[/quote]

Yeah. I was a reader and at 11 or 12 found plenty of mainstream books with explicit scenes (remember Harold Robbins, anyone? Super kinky and it was on a lot of mainstream suburban bookshelves in the 90s.). Was reading it at least by 12. I also wrote my own “smut” from 12-18. I had a lot of notebooks...

Anyway, this was pre-internet. I do see the dilemma here. Definitely talk to your daughter openly, and without shaming her. My mom was really good about conveying her concerns to me about safe sex, etc. but also letting me know that exploring sexuality was normal and healthy. I always took her concerns seriously. I was sexually experimenting a lot in high school but I didn’t have actual intercourse until I was 19 and even with some of the bad boys I dated in my 20’s, I never let anyone treat me with disrespect or in a way that I regret now. I feel like I was really empowered and it had a lot to do with the Open dialogue around these issues in my house. I mean no one WANTS to talk about this stuff and it is awkward but it pays off and is worth it! It is so important for kids to feel like their parents are not clueless a pbout this stuff, and can even be a source of support.

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