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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does he have Asperger's?[/quote]

Just stop. [/quote]

Why? It is a common trait or people with Aspergers not to have empathy for others.  If he doesn't have it, obviously he is just a selfish ass, but we need to know the context.[/quote]

I have a daughter with autism and she is the first person to run in whenever she hears a bump or cry. They are quite sensitive and, if raised appropriately, try very hard to be helpful and do the right thing. [/quote]

That is great (no snark) but my ex has Aspergers and acts just like OP's husband.  He made me take food off my plate 4 days after having a c-section because "that was for his lunch tomorrow."[/quote]

Is being selfish and self centered part of Asperger's (not being facetious, genuinely wondering)? [/quote]

Autism can show up in many different ways.  The core symptom is responding differently to social cues.  So some people with autism may literally just not understand that you're supposed to help people at certain times.  They don't understand the rule; and they don't have the theory of mind to anticipate that the other person might want help.  In the PP's example of her daughter, she may react to the distress of others, but not understand the socially appropriate way to react to it.  Other people may literally not seem to notice other people.  Another symptom may be rigidity.  So in the example of the food on the plate - in the DH's mind, he NEEDED those leftovers for his lunch, because he ALWAYS has leftovers for lunch.  [/quote]

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