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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would sit down for a serious conversation to discuss waht happened in fall, and to assess the spring semester schedule and whether it is too much.  For instance, you could suggest that they drop 3 credits and take them over summer.  Or discuss whether they are in the right major.

This serious conversation demonstrates that performance in class is important and that you care about it, just as you did in high school.  It also may give you insight about whether the kid just slacked off or really struggled (both things happen in school).

And hopefully gets them to 'own' the problem and the solution.  They probably don't want to spend summer in summer school so would find a way to improve things for spring semester on their own.[/quote]

I wouldn’t be giving advice either. What are your qualifications to give an adult recommendations for college? Are you a college counselor? Did you study something similar in college recently? Do you understand the grading in his major? Do you understand his transition and know everything that’s been going on in his life? You should not be recommending that he choose another major or directing his life unless he asks for that advice. If he’s passing leave him alone. If he’s not passing give him another semester or two to straighten things out in his own way. Ask if he needs anything.

My DD just got back from her first semester at college and we haven’t even asked her grades and not will we. We asked her if she still likes the college (she does). She’s still alive. That’s enough. [/quote]

Ummm, I wouldn't have sent my kid away to college if I my only hope was that he make it back home for break alive and breathing.

He's at college presumably because he wants a college degree.  If he has hit some stumbling blocks during his first semester I would hope that he 1) took it upon himself to meet with a college advisor 2) could let me know what his plan was for improving his performance next semester.

What's going on?  Too many distractions?  Not the right major?  Bad fit of school? Inadequate studying/preparation?  Depression?

Of course I want to know how that first semester went - good or bad.  I am on his side 100% no matter what.  Always have been, always will be.[/quote]

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