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[quote=Anonymous]Oh OP, I'm so sorry.

If you only saw evidence of a HE type place and not the EA, I would have a different response. But in this cae, I think there's something else going on--he is not finding his intimacy with you. Particularly since, as you said, he seems to be rejecting your advances. this is not the case of the ignored spouse.

My gut feeling on this is that he is not going to change. Maybe, maybe the risk of losing everything, but even then, I doubt you would necessarily ever know for sure whether or not he is being honest. And that is the worst part--its not the sex or the happy ending or the emotional affair that devastates. its lying and breaking trust, that is what is hard to recover from.

as for what to do next--you have a baby. Think hard about what you want and what life will look like apart. Do you want to walk out now? Bide your time until baby is older? I would also not confront him right away, even though you might feel you must. 100% for sure he will lie and find some bs excuse. You will know, in your gut, its a lie, but he will deny, deflect, blame, etc and it will be ugly. If you bide your time you wll certainly find more. In the meantime please either do not have sex or use condoms. 
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