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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, are either of your children actually incapable of taking care of themselves?  If one is actually not going to be able to be self sufficient, then of course, leave more for that child.  If one is just more pleasant (and has some learning issues) and the other is less pleasant but no diagnosed issues, then NO, do not make it an uneven split.

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+1   IMO, there are only two reasons for an uneven split -- one child can't care for themselves or one child spent substantially more time/money caring for the parent.  DH's parents didn't have much of an estate but he asked them not to leave anything to him since his brother (who lives in the same town) has spent so much time helping them with their small business, life management, health issues, etc.[/quote]

OP:  Do be mindful of what this will do to your family dynamics.  It looks like I'm going to be on the "short" end of an unequal split between my only sibling and me.  Father passed away two years ago.  Mother never wanted me to know the contents if her will until after her death, but I had to receive his will/sign a waiver during the probate process so my mother could get my father's estate settled.  The contingent beneficiary section indicated how the estate would have been divided, if my mother had not been around.  I won't go into great detail, but it's probably 75% sibling/25% me. I had never been estranged from my parents, and I provided a lot of support to them during the course of my father's illness.  They had favored my sibling in a lot of ways that I had previously been able to excuse, but the finality of this cut me to the core. I still love my mother and don't covet her assets, which she worked for and has every right to.   However, I expected things would be divided equally, if there were assets remaining.  My mother gets upset when I raise the issue, and still won't discuss the specifics of her will, but I gather it is similar to that of my father.  Much as I try, it's difficult to continue our relationship as before because these issues loom large.   Holiday visits are tense, and my mother avoids seeing me at other times.  My sibling and I have never been close, and this isn't helping. [/quote]

Are you and sibling different genders? Wonder why this disparity?[/quote]

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