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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have to consider why the girl may not feel comfortable having his family adopt the child, which other posters have started to touch on. She clearly wants to do adoption so that the child can be OUT of her life, and therefore so that she can focus on her future - school, jobs, etc. You can understand that point of view, right? She isn't even an adult yet. So you can imagine how having the father's parents adopt the child would complicate things. Sure, in theory, this would still allow her to head off to college with little responsibility in a year, however, I doubt it would be that clean and simple. You say that they would give her the option to be "as involved or uninvolved as she'd like" but do you really think that will work for either the child or the mother? She would give birth a few months into her senior year, so she would still be there with that baby for the ~8 months before she actually does go to college. So is she going to completely ignore the child's existence? Or just pop in and visit when she's over at the boyfriend's house? Or maybe she'll feel inclined to all but move-in with that family and become very bonded with that child. You must wonder if that's a possibility. If you have a child, you must understand the bond of a mother with her child. And then, fast forward to college: will she even want to go away after knowing that child? And again, if she does go away, will she just pop in and out of that kid's life whenever she gets the chance? That can't be good for the child.

To me, it seems impossible for the son and his girlfriend to remain together if his family plans to adopt the kid WITHOUT her completely coming around to parenting that child. How could they just go on as a regular young couple when she knows that the child she gave birth to is at his house?

I am not advocating for any one solution, and I truthfully don't know what the right choice is. But you can imagine how complicated the option of the parents adopting would be for anyone in the situation. It almost seems better for another younger couple to adopt the child so that there are no strings attached, but I know that there are negatives to that as well.[/quote]

One parent shouldn’t be forced into giving a child up for adoption to make the other parent’s life easier. That’s messed up. If she wants to relinquish her parental rights, she’s allowed to. If he doesn’t want to, that choice shouldn’t be forced on him. [/quote]

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