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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Infertility is not an excuse to check out. They should have been involved with their niece's/nephews. [/quote]

I agree completely. It's one thing to have a hard time with pregnancy announcements, even to skip baby showers and the like. It's entirely another to completely reject and make zero effort to spend time around your nieces and nephews once they're actually here - real people (close family members!) who are growing and changing as individuals. They're no longer just amorphous "babies" that you don't have yourself at that point.. Having a hard time reacting joyfully to another pregnant announcement or a hard time being around someone when they're pregnant is one thing; avoiding your own nieces and nephews is another. That's absolutely offensive and wrong on their parts, and not excused by infertility. [/quote]
Spoken like someone who has never had to struggle. [/quote]

You're wrong actually, it took me almost 4 years to get (and stay) pregnant. And you can bet it got harder and hrder for me to put on a happy face and act thrilled when people shared pregnancy news with me. Private cries, skipping baby showers and gender reveals? I did it. But I cannot IMAGINE not ever seeing my nieces and nephews as they grew and became toddlers etc. Can't imagine! I love kids...and I love the hell out of them.

How far does this logic go for you? Do you avoid your siblings' kids through the teenage years, because it's too painful of a reminder that you don't have a teenager of your own? Do you suddenly start trying to forge a relationship with them when they turn 20?

Honestly, I'd like to know your logic here [/quote]

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