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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been in a cold affectionless marriage for over 25 years.  The last time that I brought up divorce, I was asked to wait until my DD graduated from HS.  That is another 5 years.  My oldest has graduated.  My friends that have gotten divorced keep telling me that kids are more resilient than we give them credit.  I want to divorce my DW not my kids.  If I separated from my DW...  I would still live close to them and see them as much as possible..

Is having divorced parents a negative on Middle School/High School
Girls?

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I’m an adult who wished my parents had divorced; my mom was somewhat like how you describe your wife with a drinking problem added in her later years.  I hated being in a house with so much tension, and I hated feeling like I was the only reason they were still together.  It feels like an unfair burden to be a kid or teenager and feel responsible for someone else’s happiness.  
I wanted to worry about my own life as a teen only and your kids probably are the same- it’s part of being young, you’re are somewhat self involved naturally.  
I think if you can leave and somehow make sure your wife’s depression doesn’t become a burden on your kids you should. Stay involved with them , be a decent person to the ex (she’ll always be your kids family, so always keep that in the back of your mind), and be happy and they’ll have a solid home with you at least even if it’s only 50% of the time.

And I think you should go to a therapist - you’ve got a lot going on and there’s no downside to having a neutral perso. To talk things over with[/quote]

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