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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, stop. Ask Jeff to delete this thread, honestly. No one gets it/is on your side here. I think it would be nicest if you just left your family alone for awhile.[/quote]

Why my whole family? That's what I'm struggling to understand? [/quote]

I'll chime in and try to be kind. OP, I understand that your original post was made out of anger and frustration and being tired. That said, the words that you chose to use to describe a three year old girl - exhausted or not - are really despicable. It really showed your character when you so viscerally dislike a small child. It said nothing about your issues with discipline and everything was directed toward the little girl. You directed none of that same displaced anger toward perhaps the people that could provide discipline.

You stated that this was one of, if not the actual first meeting. So you've based all your impressions on one encounter. She's three. I can't tell you how embarrassed my child has made me when he was three. Mortified on a few occasions. And most of those who were on the receiving end were kind and basically said "oh I remember those times" and give me some support and understanding and some closer would offer constructive advice.

Your post shows none of that and you threatened to engage with your own sister during holidays because of this. If she were her biological child - would you feel differently? Would you treat your niece differently?

You sound hateful and more than that, your post screams that you aren't supportive of this union. And that's why people say family - because they assume that the gatherings would be with expanded family on these occasions.

Lastly, given you saying that you teach preschool - it's even more horrendous as one would assume you've seen the great swath of behaviors that come at that age and would be more sympathetic - to include the anxieties and complexities that come with such a huge transition for the little girl at such an early age. One would think that if you wanted to be kind and a great future Aunt that you would do things that will over time improve your relationship with her and also perhaps provide some loving guidance and words to your own sister. [/quote]

And no, I've been around her every day for 2 weeks now. Not once has her dad disciplined her for yelling at me.[/quote]

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