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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's pretty common human nature to view the past with rose-colored glasses and to change memories to paint yourself in a better light.  Like grandparents who exclaim over their grandkids who wake up at night, insisting that their kids never did that!  Also their kids walked at 6 mos and were talking in sentences at 12 mos.

My DH does this with regard to recent history, particularly with regard to parenting, and it drives me insane.  I did 100% of the daycare dropoffs and pickups for one kid for example.  I am quite sure of this -- I remember it and I remember the daycare teachers asking me what he was like because they had never met him.  He insists now that he did quite a bit of dropping off and picking up.  Really DH?  It's not even old history - I remember what happened 3 years ago!  I can't tell if he knows he's wrong or he really has rewritten it in his mind.  [/quote]

[b]I think people re write and remember what they want to.[/b][/quote]

THIS.  And it applies to all generations, including all the women on this thread complaining about the alleged frugality of their parents.  We rasied our kids in the 80s and 90s, and believe me they and their friends were given a LOT of time and money.  I don't see any material difference between how our kids and their friends were raised and treated -- front and center to their parents' lives -- and how our kids are treating their grandkids.  And get this:  we actually GET ALONG with our kids and grandkids and all of us are happy to have each other around.

DCUM is a truly sad forum.  I only stumbled upon it recently, and man -- it's full of nothing but accomplished women (and the occasional man) complaining about their parents, their inlaws, their siblings and their friends.  You all act like you were dropped into an orphanage by a stork and got no help from anyone on the way.  Talk about revising history!  Talk about white people problems!

I mean, wow.

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