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My parents were asocial and thus had no idea what normal parenting looked like. I lived a hermit's life, basically, and only socialized at school. God forbid I had a semblance of a life outside of school. I was not allowed to see my friends, go anywhere, or have any kind of activity, apart from piano, a very solitary sport. Borderline abusive.

I tried to talk to them about it once. It did not go over well. [/quote]

How are you parenting nowadays?

My spouse had a similar situation but because his father had severe ADHD almost to the point of being a social liability or dangerous in public or private or parenting situations. DH is only now addressing his family of origin issues and doesn't know what to make of his parents or their relationship. [/quote]

My children and I are introverted, we like spending time together, we have friends but not a lot. However, we aren't as extreme as the old generation. The difference between my parents and myself is that because of my childhood experiences, I am acutely aware of how social involvement can impact child development, so I do my best to organize birthday parties, maintain friendships and welcome neighbor kids in our house. My parents invited my friends only once - for my 10th birthday. I still remember it as an incredible day! My parents literally have only one friend, and they act very condescendingly toward her. They have this attitude that no one is good enough for them. I don't have many friends, but we are a close-knit group and help each other out, which is wonderful. This entire concept of unrelated people helping each other, I've had to learn as an adult - my parents haven't helped anyone, to my knowledge. They just keep to themselves, and I find that inexplicable. Yet they seem content, so...

ADHD, inattentive type, also runs in our family. Not sure whether to draw any kind of conclusion from that.

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