Reply to If you are a SAHM with significant extra help to make up for lack of DH involvement...

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "If you are a SAHM with significant extra help to make up for lack of DH involvement..."

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I'm in a similar situation as you, OP.

First, I think it's NOT okay that your DH leaves trash lying around. My DH started doing that and I was NOT okay with it.  We ended up in couples counseling, but it's been for the best.  He now knows that he has to contribute to our family life and take care of his own messes, and making a lot of money doesn't change that.

Second, I SAH and we have weekly cleaners and a sitter come about 12-15 hours a week (one long day, one afternoon).  Having one day to just be entirely without the kids is a life saver.  I still use most of the day to get stuff done, but I go to a Starbucks to work.

I also see a personal trainer and spend a lot on beauty treatments, which is just something I find relaxing and enjoyable and makes me feel like less of a full-time "mom".

We are comfortable where we are but I'm considering hiring a 20-hour a week housekeeper, since we can afford it.  Just someone to do the laundry and general tidying and perhaps stay with my kids if I have a doctor's appointment on a day the sitter isn't here.

Don't feel guilty about hired help.  People don't understand what it's like to be married to someone with such an intense job!!  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics