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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The scale of your betrayal of your wife is monumental--probably beyond what you have the capacity to contemplate with your head wedged that far up your behind.

But all of this because you "can't be that divorced family"? Weak tea, OP. Get divorced. Live with some integrity. [/quote] I have more integrity that many many others out there and see if in my job every single day. [/quote]

What kind of job is this? [b]Are you a lawyer for white-collar criminals or something[/b]?

You're not "staying honorable to being married" in any way other than the external appearance. You know your wife would call bullshit on this if she knew about it--so you keep it from her. How would you feel if your child ended up married to someone like you?[/quote] Law enforcement. I see domestics everyday. Kids taken to CPS, kids watching their dad get hauled off because of restraining orders, visitation issues, you name it. No way am I putting my kids through that broken family drama. He's 12, entering middle school then high school. No way. [/quote]

Reality check -- you realize that what you see on the job is not a representative sample of the consequences of divorce -- right?  Many of us out there in the real world (not the COPS/TV world) got divorced, don't have any drama with our exes, share child custody in a way that is beneficial for the child, etc.

Of course, this entire thread shows that you are the KING of drama, so maybe it wouldn't be that way for you, but that would be BECAUSE of you and your need for drama.

Honestly, as a someone who was cheated on (both physically and just emotionally like you have done with your DW), I can say that it was very traumatizing when I found out.  But, although the infidelity was terrible for me and the kids, the worst part was the fact that exDH also screwed me financially and doesn't take on an equal share of the parenting duties.

So, make a fair child custody and financial settlement with your wife - and by fair, I mean one that is more beneficial to her than you, because you basically screwed her out of a normal family life by marrying her and having a child with her when you knew you did not love her.  That is such a gigantic and enormous deception, manipulation, theft and betrayal, that there is no way you can stay together and have a normal family life.  What you are creating for your child if you stay is just a Potemkin village of marriage, and it will negatively affect the kind of relationships he has in the future.  [/quote]

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