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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Im with you OP - and as someone who went through this- I understand the many months out invite. This isn’t a party, this is a holiday where trafitions are built. Your MIL has had many years to establish hers, and for her-her home is the center—but thats HER tradition. You and your DH already have changed by of course, alternating years. And now, eith children of your own you are changing again.

Thanksgiving is not just a meal to be had on any day in the year so there is no equivalency in having another day if thats not what you want to do so that’s an understandable non-starter. I say you are on girm ground except I don’t like the point of how you say your place is more confortable/fun. While it may be a fact it isn’t a kindness to your IL’s - or anyone who because of their modest means or the reality of trying to be gracious but not bring set up for kids.

Keep to caring about all the family, being conscious that you can be right but also know there will be impacts to others. Your MIL can decide to keep to her traditions (and assume she will on the alternating years you’ll be at your parents.) [/quote]

OP here. I would never mention the more-comfortable-for-others factor out loud to others, ever. I only mentioned that as an anonymous response to an anonymous, on-topic question: how do the other attendees feel about us hosting. Answer, they are excited about it, because the cousins love this house.[/quote]

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