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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP---I think it is selfish to consider adopting a SN child without seriously thinking through the impact of that adoption on the child that you have.  You are saddling your biological child with lifelong responsibility:  when you are dead and gone---it is your bio child that will have to shoulder the responsibility for the SN child's care.  As an over-50 adult, I have several friends whose parents have passed, leaving them responsible for their siblings with Down's.  That is a significant responsibility and you are constraining your bio child's options in adulthood by setting them up with a substantial care burden once you are gone. [/quote]

I know two people who are going to be caring for or at the least, overseeing residential care for, their DS adult siblings. They truly love their siblings, but this post is correct in noting that it's a huge responsibility for them to be handed when their parents are gone. It affects their life choices and their spouses' choices as well (not necessarily negatively, but their spouses know the family has to live near the DS sibling etc. so no job moves, for instance).

OP, think first of the child you already have and the lifetime impact. Of course that impact has positives too, when a child learns empathy and understanding for a sibling with SN. But in your shoes I wouldn't adopt this child.[/quote]

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