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[quote=Anonymous]OP, if you are willing to spend enough, you can adopt.  The adoption industry is very slimy and its all about money.

We were in your situation where we were offered a child who had two birthparents with severe SN (cognitive).  It was unclear if the child would have the same issues or not (other relatives did not).  In the end, we were older too and decided against it as child would need life long care and if we were older, what would happen after we passed.  We were concerned about having enough money for a life long trust and then how could we guarantee it be used for our child.  If you can financially put away a few million, it might change my opinion.

We adopted.  After our experience, we are grateful for one and would love another child but not willing to do the process as many situations have very questionable ethics and other issues.  Our child has mild SN.  No one knew at the time.  I'd do it all over for our child if I had to but just know you are in for many many years of private therapies (you can use county but they aren't nearly as good) and it can be very costly if your insurance doesn't cover it.  I spent every day, often twice a day in therapies with my child for several years.  How will that impact your older child?  Can you afford help (assuming yes if husband is a CEO) as that would impact my decision as well.

Do what is in your heart, just know its a lot of work, but often it is worth it.  You can adopt at 40, we did but it took us many years.  This probably will not be your only opportunity and baby will find a family if you turn baby down but don't rush into it thinking its your only chance.  And, if it is, be grateful for your one and know you tried.[/quote]

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