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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.   This thread has gone off the relationship topic, but has great information for me.  Thanks.

It seems like requesting/demanding (if the request is not granted) accommodations could help.

I see two areas:

1) While she is in intensive therapy, ensure there is at least one non-therapy day to complete the assignment.  Practically, that would mean if the teacher assigns something on monday, she would have until at least Sat. to get it in.

2) Reduce the audio-distractions from other classmates during exams.  The audio distractions render her unable to concentrate, and become the focus of her energy.  Practically, this would probably mean either allowing her to take the test in an isolated setting or use noise attenuating headgear.

Does this sound reasonable?[/quote]

Honestly you don’t sound reasonable. You just dismiss out of hand that academic pressure may be overwhelming because she told you it wasn’t. You are clearly deeply, intensely committed to her academic success and achievement. I doubt your dd is able to just tell you what’s bothering her here.

What if you told her that the most important thing was her health and well-being, that she would do the best she could this year and that taking AB Calc next year was not crucial to her happiness or future success? Because it’s not. [/quote]

She as told me, she told her therapists, she told my wife.  I am confident that it is not school pressure.   She likes learning and school.  The other problem is as a rising junior, there are no viable math options slower than AB calculus.   The problem she is having in math is because she loses focus during the tests -- not because she can not keep up with the workload.  She specifically said the noise another kid was making so annoyed her she could not concentrate.  [/quote]. 
OP, i beg you, repost this in the Special Needs forum.  There are tons of parents there who can offer you their experience and you will mot be side tracked by people who want to make this problem into something about you (as you were doing to your wife .. ironic?)[/quote]

If OP can write the sentence "as a rising junior, there are no viable math options slower than AB calculus" with a straight face he needs to at least have qualified outsiders consider whether he is part of the problem.

I'm not saying she's not smart or that she hates learning, OP, I'm saying she has other issues that are interfering with her academics. FFS let them interfere! Get her out of there! Put your kid over her math track for a change. "She specifically said the noise another kid was making so annoyed her" jesus h christ. Did she [i]specifically[/i] say it when being questioned by you, her unbelievably judgmental dad whose self worth is tied up in her academic success and intelligence who will turn on his wife, her teachers, etc if they interfere with his plans? Okay then I guess what your daughter needs is for you to resolve to "request/demand" things so she's not threatened by a NON VIABLE MATH OPTION omfg.

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