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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How does 504 plan helps with the calculus AB? If she needs lots for work at home for pre-calc, she will need that time and more for calc. It's not about assignements or projects (which can be accommodated). More time on tests or notes wouldn't help. [/quote]

the assumption is by next year, she will be out of the crisis and will have the time to study.  The issue with the current situation is that on tues - thurs, she is not getting home until 8 PM.  And she is usually too emotional then to focus.  She grasps the material/understands the concepts, but the lack of practice is leading to simple arithmetic errors.[/quote]
Is school pressure one of the causes for the crisis? Calc is infinitely harder than pre-calc if you have to study a lot for pre-calc. If your daughter truly requires intense therapy and your family group therapy, do you honestly believe that in 6 months she will be able to handle the pressure of honor classes and tests and whatever else that causes her problems. [/quote]

We are not really sure the source of the problems.  There is social anxiety.  School work only contributes in that sometimes she gets anxious before a test.  But, when I talk to DD, she does not feel like the school work is a problem.  The problem is, while she is getting treated, she can not spend the requisite amount of time on school.  I also talked to her, and found out that she talked to her math teacher, and he said that she could have the same issues next year, and can not recommend her for anything more. She gives me an example on a recent test, though...the kid sitting next to her was shaking is hit, which was distracting her (we are getting an evaluation to see if the anxiety/depressing is related to other things, as she is very sensitive to noise/ can not work at home unless it is 100% quiet).  With the distraction, she did not bother to 1) check her work, or 2) do the extra credit, as she just wanted to get out of there.  
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It is absolutely unacceptable for your dD's teacher to say what he did, especially when she has no formal accommodations.  What he is essentially saying is, sorry that you have an illness/disability, because of your illness, I will mo longer give you academic opportunity.". That is the essence of disability discrimination.  It happened to my DD too, and it made her illness a thousand times worse.  This kind of discrimination happens very often in school and I see other PP's engaging in this in this thread - prejudging what she will and won't be able to do, saying, "do you honestly believe she can be in honors?..."

Your Dd has told you flat out that school is not the problem.  What she means is that the homework and tests are not hard, but other things get in the way.

Here is what your DD needs.  1) Extended time and rescheduling of deadlines on all homework and assignments in all classes.  She needs this so she doesn't have to do any work on T-TH when she has therapy.  2) she needs copy of class notes (all classes). Since she is so focused therapy during the week, she needs to have class notes to review.   3) Copy of answer keys to class notes and homework.  She needs to be able to have more time than just in class to review solutions.  4) Extra time on trsts 5) Reduced distraction environment for testing ( so she is not annoyed as you described).  6). She may also need "redirect attention on tests" or something similar where the teacher will actually check that all Qs are answered and encourage her to try.  She may also need "reduced homework" - My DD had this in Algebra 1 when she was in and out for many months due to illness.  The teacher cut homework from 20 problems to 10 key problems.  The teacher said if you get As and Bs on all the quizzes in a unit, I will not then also make you take a unit test on the same material.  Unfortunately, your DD's math teacher has already shown his inclination to discriminate.  You must docent this to stop it immediately.

All of the things I have mentioned are common accomodations and it is shocking your school/teachers haven't offered them.

Your dD sounds smart.  Ask HER what she wants to do.  Show her this post and ask her if she thinks any of these accommodations would help.  would she like them and then be able to catch up on math on saturdays?  Having some control and decision-making power in your life is very important for depressed kids.  Make it clear that you are willing to fight for her - whether she wants to stay in the class OR wants to drop it. [/quote]

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