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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you asked for help with childcare, your mother-in-law was kind enough to offer to watch your child ALL SUMMER if that was needed, and your response is to complain about her? How unkind you are, how self-centered. She sounds like a caring family member trying to help as best she can. [/quote]

Hi, MIL,

That's not what happened. Op asked for help for one weekend and MIL responded by offering to take the child from his home and parents for three months.[/quote]

some parents would consider that a favor. take it or leave it; lectures are entirely unnecessary and counterproductive [/quote]

Oh, please. Would you or would you not find it intrusive and undermining if you had a conversation with your MIL that went like this:

"Jean, I have a work event on Tuesday night; would you mind staying with Junior and cooking dinner for him?"

"Yes, Deborah, I will do that. I also can watch him for the full holiday season, and will cook your Thanksgiving meal for you as well."[/quote]

Oh who cares?  Intrusive/undermining??  I’d just decline and be on my way.[/quote]

OK. Sure. If you asked a neighbor for a ride across town, and she said yes and she'd also be happy to drive you to California, you wouldn't think anything of it. Uh huh.[/quote]

it's not that I wouldn't think anything about it but I would keep things simple (decline) and not ask that person again. my own MIL (who lives abroad) suggested multiple times that my small kids spend the summer with her. it was not even prompted by any request for childcare help. i said no and moved on. l see no point in proving to her how delusional she is to think this would happen or that I would ever part with small children for such a long period. just don't do it.[/quote]

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