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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husbands ex would be only because she gets a life long portion of his military retirement and it is her only income.  She loses it upon his death.  He could not care less and hopes never to see or talk to her again. [/quote]

To be eligible for a portion of his military retirement pay, they would have had to have been married for a minimum of 20 years, of which 20 years had to coincide with his military service. That's a long marriage- and if there are kids, deployments and frequent moves make life much more complicated than it is for the average civilian family that stays in one place. In addition, it has historically been difficult for spouses to grow and maintain careers with the frequent required moves, especially during the years when this marriage must have occurred.

Did you marry your husband after he retired from active duty service? If so, you really haven't experienced what it's like to be a young military spouse all alone with kids for long periods of time with no way to set up a decent career for yourself. It can't hurt to have kinder thoughts toward your husband's ex, who put up with the tough early years of his career.

(Also, I'm very surprised that their divorce agreement did not require him to set up his retirement pay so that she would continue to get a portion after his death, or be  a beneficiary of life insurance.)
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Sounds like she got more than she should for just 9 years!!

If I were her I would move to another state and leave them all behind. Sounds like her DH isn't too crazy about them either, and there are valid reasons.[/quote]

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