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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would you cry?  Attend his funeral?  Be sad?  What are one's moral obligations under such circumstances? (And I understand circumstaces have a lot to do with it, but I'm curious to know).  [/quote]

No. If we had kids the kids would have to attend with other family members as it's not appropriate for exes to show up at those events. Unless the new spouse invites them. Or he was single and the family lets the spouse know they are welcome. Otherwise, that's about it.[/quote]

My husband's ex and kids are horrible to him.  I wouldn't tell them.   They'd only know when her retirement check from him stops and she'll be up a creek as its her only income.[/quote]

What the heck? Why does his ex get his retirement check?  Usually they divide that at the time of the divorce.  Called a QDRO I believe.  Now you're his beneficiary so it would go to you once he died.

There are many estranged families because of divorce. You're under no obligation to notify a ex. I wouldn't.  [/quote]

They were married 9 years and he was in the military.  Its gross as they were divorced before they were 30.  She got 30 or 40% of his military retirement based off of the 20 years, not even the 9 they were married.  He got screwed big time.  When he dies, her money stops.  I will only get it because he took out the annuity for me.  If he didn't take out the annuity I wouldn't get it (and our kids).  [/quote]

(I'd rather him be alive and her get the money given the choice but I could careless if she died and wouldn't help at all with funeral, which wouldn't surprise me if they expected us to pay).[/quote]

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