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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For what it's worth, your son sounds just like mine in how he reacts. Mine would feel as though the had been accused of something he didn't think he had done, wouldn't want to accept the consequence, would run away and/or become aggressive (fight or flight mentality). Luckily he is in a good program, where the emphasis is on supporting him rather than punishing him (so suspensions have not been as long). He has ADHD and anxiety, and it is the anxiety that caused him to act out so much when his impulsive behavior gets him in trouble. Once we started to treat him for anxiety, things started to get better. [/quote]

OP here:  Thank you so much for this. I'm hopeful that once the exact issues are determined we will see improvement. [b]This has all come on so quickly[/b].[/quote]

Question - you mentioned there were no issues in K or 1st for behavior.  Would ADHD present at this age without hints earlier?  Asking out of ignorance, but this part struck me.

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I'll bite and answer (I'm not the OP).  ADHD generally will present before 2nd grade.  That doesn't mean that she would necessarily see behavior like this before 2nd grade.  If he had even a remotely appropriate environment in K and 1st, he might have been able to function without melt-downs.  Imagine a kid with asthma.  If they are in a clean environment, they are going to be mostly okay.  Now put them in a room full of smokers, and you're going to have an asthma attack that requires hospitalization.  Putting a kid with this kind of ADHD around adults that don't know how to deal with kids with ADHD (or really, any kids, if they were mocking the child for how he spoke) is like putting an asthmatic kid in a room full of smokers.  It pretty much guarantees you are going to have an extreme episode.

OP, in addition to the other stuff, I'd look for an cognitive behavioral program that can help teach him flexible thinking, modulation of emotional response in response to set-backs or criticism, and other things.  in the meantime, you can try something like "How to take the Grrr Out of Anger"  (on amazon).  Your son sounds a lot like mine -- the good news is that if he's cognitively advanced, a lot of times you can take a calm moment and problem-solve with him about how he can deal with problems like this when they do arise.  I guarantee he doesn't like to respond like this.  He just needs to develop the tools to respond differently.  And teachers mocking him or telling him he's just a bad kid aren't going to give him those tools.  Is there a good counselor at your school?  Ours is great, and really helps my child.  When he is upset, he asks to go see her now and she knows how to talk him down.  I've also given them some pointers about things that I think help him to get his cool back.[/quote]

I posted the question.  Thanks for answering.  That makes sense.

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