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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. It is hard for me to be friends with people who are not generous. I am a very generous person with gifts, favors, anything. I have 3 kids and time is worth the most. I can't keep company who is keeping tabs. It sounds like half the people think it is preferable to itemize. For acquaintances, that is fine but I just can't do it with a friend.[/quote]

In general, I like separate checks.  It allows everyone to eat/drink within their means whatever that may be.  I’ve gotten to the point I don’t like going to the large group birthday parties where you split the check. Inevitably, I find myself spending over double what my meal cost, at the opposite end of the table as my friend, and I will barely drink yet subsidizing everyone else is having 3 glasses. I would rather take the birthday girl out on my own - more enjoyable all around.

As for only going out with friends that are generous, that’s your choice. I have several friends that will typically get a separate check or look to splt the bill if it’s close, itemize if it’s not roughly the same. They will take me out for my birthday to eat.  They are there for me if I ever had something going on and needed to talk to someone.  I’ve known them since college.  If I had almost overpayment of group meals as my measuring stick for friendships, I would have missed out on good friends.  I would add that depending on the person, overpayment of the group meal may not even be true generousity but rather not wanting to look cheap, an ego thing like money doesn’t matter, or sometimes a point of pride like when people argue that they want to be the one to pick up the check.  I look at the person as a whole, not just one thing.  Personally, I would love to have more friends that are willing to organize get togethers. It seems most people are content to say yeah or nay but not to actually commit themselves to a date and then plan and invite others,[/quote]

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