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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes I feel like my DH and I are the only ones with a long (30 years), happy marriage. It makes me sad. We have so many friends who have divorced. I have no desire at all to cheat. [/quote]

My H and I have been married 15 years and together for 20. He's my best friend and still my favorite person to shoot the shit with. He's an amazing dad. He pulls his weight around the house and then some. We have great, satisfying sex (he's very generous in bed - I always have 2 orgasms to his one). We have a very happy life and I have no complaints about him as a person or partner. To the contrary, I often wonder what the heck he sees in ME.

But look, I'm happily married, not dead. I have eyes in my head, I see attractive men on the street. I remember how thrilling it was to fall in love with someone new. If I have complaints, it's with the idea that ONE person is supposed to be able to meet ALL of your emotional, sexual, and oractical needs for 50 years or more.

I think what I have now is as good as it gets. But our relationship lacks the excitement it once had in the beginning. When we have sex, it's more to connect emotionally or to scratch a physical itch, not because I can't keep my hands off him. I remember feeling that way. I don't anymore, even with all the good stuff I mentioned. And yeah I'll be honest, I miss feeling the kind of lust that makes you crazy, that makes you feel like you're high on good drugs. It's sad to think I'll never feel that way again. I didn't realize it would eventually fade away almost completely.

However I do agree that it's unrealistic to expect to feel those butterflies after 20 years together. I still feel them occasionally, in certain situations (usually spontaneous) but not often.

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I sometimes feel the same way as you, and I've been married much longer, but when I realize how rich my life is with my DH those thoughts quickly disappear. So I think about spicing up our sex life which is already pretty darn good. [/quote]

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