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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]who are these people who claim that men can "have it all" without anyone  noticing. they can have as much as women. no one can have it all, all at the same time without some serious luck or timing. if you have a 60 hour career you probably care a good amount for your kids but, no, you aren't going to have as much family togetherness time as you probably want. if you are o my at work 40 hours a week you probably are going to middle out  (or may be choosing that) , marriage needs time in there too. you can be doing well and be happy in all of those but no, you can't be crushing each one, without at least seeing others pass you in a way, which is life.

[b]men don't get to magically have extra hours in the day. I think we are at least getting to a point where men are considering this too, not just assumed to not want to do the "home stuff" bc they are men. [/b][/quote]
This is spot on. Men have never had it all...and the only difference is that it's rare to think a man wants the stuff he can't have. And it's rare to assume that a woman has a partner around to pick up the slack on the things that a "big" career would keep her from doing/having.

I'm late 30's with a "growing" job (not sure how else to put it). I also have a lot of flexibility, which helps with young kids. We have a very high HHI, which makes it easy to outsource quite a bit. And I've started to come to a reckoning around what I do/don't want in life. I think you can't "have it all" and that most people don't want it all. I will say out loud that I don't want more than a couple hours a day with my kids. We get sick of each other. That may change when they're older, but that's where things stand right now. I guess time will tell if they turn out to be monsters, but so far they seem like they're on a good trajectory.[/quote]

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