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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sex doesn't pay the bills, put children into college, make you live a quality life, etc.   This sounds like a good man!  You can teach a man who lacks in the sexual department.  Also, toys and porn really help the sexually inexperience folks to learn some techniques.  However, an unstable dude with a great D can't offer you anything outside of sex.   Your sex drive will decline anyway.  So, choose security over sex.  [/quote]

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Your priority is clear. There is the 80/20 rule. And everyone compromises in some way.  One of the first PPs upthread suggested discussing with him; take that talk further and consider whether you would want the option for an open marriage, or therapy, or classes, etc. if you commit to live out the rest of your days with him, and him with you. Listen to what he says without judgement. Request the same. Allow yourself time to think it through, and if you find the 80 good is worth the 20 that is bad? Go for it, and be happy. You're going in with your eyes open. Just remember that you have to remember the vulnerability that you are going in with too, from the jump; being sexually dissatisfied. To thine own self be true. You know you best. Do you. Recognize whether you are being rooted in an environment that challenges your ability to do that, and how you will respond. Can you afford to go to your weakest point? It is a different answer for everyone. Agree in general, choose security over sex. But make sure you are truly choosing security. Emotional, physical, spiritual, financial, they are all equally important to your wellbeing. Good luck. Your situation sounds favorable, but you know you best.[/quote]

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