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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And if the parenting is so bad such that the child is diagnosed with ODD, how do you suppose that suddenly they will be good enough to master your espoused approach?  It doesn't work that way.  The child made his or her way into an ODD diagnosis because of environmental factors such as poor parenting.  ODD is not a biologic condition, it is behavioral, and behavior is shaped by parents.[/quote]

It can work that way, thank heavens.   Parents who have a child who is extremely oppositional are not (necessarily) bad at parenting, and very likely are doing a great job with their non ODD children.  But it takes exceptional parenting skills to parent a child with symptoms of ODD.   They don't "suddenly" become good at it -- it takes training, and learning specific skills.  
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Or you can be crappy parents with some children who internalize the trauma and stress and seem "good." Whereas the "ODD" child externalizes the dysfunction and becomes the family's identified patient. I actually think my "ODD" brother ended up better off than the siblings who kept it bottled up inside and then ended up struggling with depression, anxiety, drinking, bad relationships, as young adults. [/quote]

You keep talking about your own family and projecting your personal experiences onto every other family. Have you considered therapy for your own issues? ODD is NOT caused by deficient parenting, but you just don't get it because your judgment has been clouded.
Sad. I feel sorry for you and hope you get the help you need.[/quote]

I don't doubt that there may be some kids for whom the label of ODD is appropriate and helpful.  My only point is that in a disorder inherently related to the environment, any competent therapist needs to first look to the environment to see if the environment is dysfunctional, not the child.  [/quote]

http://www.aamft.org/iMIS15/AAMFT/Content/consumer_updates/child_abuse_and_neglect.aspx

"Children who suffer abuse and neglect are often diagnosed with: Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), Conduct Disorder (CD), Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), and depressive and anxiety related disorders. Some will act out sexually or be sexually abusive to others."[/quote]

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