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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Depends on what you mean by pursue.  I think it's fine to take the initiative and express interest or ask someone out.  This is true online or in real life--approach and ask out.  If the answer is anything other than a clear yes, I'd walk away.

Once you initiate and make it known you're interested by asking out, I think it pays to sit back and let him pursue.[/quote]

Do you think this is gender specific? In other words, if a man asks a woman out, should he then sit back and let her pursue? 
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You're quoting me.  I'm sorry to say this and I am glad this is an anonymous forum--but yes, I think it's usually gender-specific.  I won't go so far as to go back to the "men are hunters and need to conquer" idea.  But most men, either through evolutionary behavior or social indoctrination, want a bit of pursuit.  I don't think women do.

That said, that is not the same thing as playing games or playing hard to get. In my case, I initiated contact and stayed engaged. I didn't hide how interested I was, but I let him set the pace initially.  [/quote]

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