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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How does it benefit you to hold a grudge for 20 years, OP? Is it going to change what happened or who people were and are? Or is it going to continue to poison you and your husband and child? Are you holding out hope that someone from his family will come forward and apologize and hand you a bag of cash? Are you mad at the family in addition for having genes that may have contributed to your child having special needs? You need to ask yourself why you're determined to hold onto this anger.[/quote]

Agreed!
And I don't understand your animosity towards the siblings?

The parents favored the siblings, that's on the parents.
The siblings used emotional extortion to get their loans paid for & they did.
Your husband could have done the exact same thing, but he didn't... again, how is this the siblings fault??

The one remaining parent talked you into paying off the loans NOT the siblings, why are you bunching the siblings in with the one parent who you feel manipulated you??

It sounds like you're holding a grudge against the whole family, because of this one members wrong doing.
Why would you fault them for what ONE parent did?
Why would they be to blame for what ONE parent did?

Look, you seem to be ruled by a grudge, is this the way to go through life?  Miserable over something that happened 20 years  ago?  That's ridiculous.

You're not taking ownership for your part, it seems like you only want to play the victim.

Let your kids see their cousins & dont teach your kids to hold onto negativity so tightly... especially about money.
You're gonna have a heart attack over this one day & then think about how much time you've wasted in this nonsense.

You need to let this go or you'll NEVER be free... EVER.

I feel really sorry for you that you've made yourself a victim & dug your heels in to it & anyone whose ever told you to let it go (therapist after therapist) you've stopped going to, because you don't REALLY want to change.  
God, you sound exhausting.

Everyone else wants to move on & be a family, you're the only one who prefers to keep the strife going.
You know what?  You're absolutely right, hookahs would be MUCH better without your constant negative vibe & forever blame gaming.  Stay home, everyone will be much happier & your kids & husband will get to have fun with his family, without having you feel guilty that they are or that you might get upset because they're having fun with the ENEMY.

This is your identity now, who else would you be if you weren't the little immigrant victim?

I'm sure your husband appreciates your intolerance towards his family, and you probably remind him of it every chance you get... you must be a real pleasure to live with.
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