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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unless you're paycheck to paycheck, not sure wh6 he'd be bitching about you getting outfits for your niece. I'd never let dh get away with that bs. I have 3 nephews and buy what I want for them. [/quote]

YOU buy what you want for them. That is fine. But, if the DH is at the store to buy a couple of things for himself, and DW, without asking, just plops two items on the counter, that would piss me off. It is a principle. First, she didn't even discuss it or ask. She just put it on the register, assuming that I would pay for it and also, putting me in a position where I can't say no because it was already sprung on me at the register.

Buy your family whatever you want, but use your money for that nonsense.[/quote]

Is it one and the same person posting this, or do all of you have separate accounts/financial lives with your spouses? :shock: Surprised at the amount of "you buy for yours" and "he shops for himself."[/quote]

There are a few different reasons why OP's DH could be justifiably annoyed with OP plopping a couple items on the register while he's buying stuff:

1. Their finances are separate 
2. They are on a budget and not supposed to make spontaneous purchases, even on $5 onesies.
3. DH thinks it's rude that OP would plop some things into his purchase w/o any word
4. OP probably has bought niece a bunch of sh*t already and DH is thinking "that's enough"
5. DH is fed up with OP's obsession with her niece and/or her family as evinced in that moment by the onesies on the counter

As to #3, my DH would not be annoyed by this at all, but he has his own idiosyncratic pet peeves and maybe this is one of OP's DH's.  Of the five, my guess based on how clueless and mental OP sounds are #4 and #5.[/quote]

This is a great way to word all of the issues.

Personally, I think that OP's DH is just tired of the extreme nature of the relationship she has with her family, and it is being manifested in "blow ups" over small things. OP needs to understand that there is a bigger issue and that not all people are going to react to family in the same way. Especially a family that isn't theirs.[/quote]

I completely agree. OP seems really needy. I feel no real affection for babies (and I'm a woman!) and I don't particularly find them to be cute. I don't want to hold anyone's babies. So sue me.

My fiancé and I have no plans to commingle our finances which I realize is not the norm, but we would never expect the other to pay for family stuff for the not-paying person. [/quote]

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