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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have an almost one-year old baby niece who I adore. However, DH couldn't care less about her. He doesn't hold her or hug her when near her. He got mad at me the other day while we were out shopping at Macy's and I put a onesie at the register for her when he was paying. My family is very important to me and I'm very close with them, I see my family probably 2-3 times a week and talk to them often on the phone. [b]When I show him pictures of her he may smile but doesn't really seem to care. DH comes over to my parents house maybe once a week and seems to enjoy himself [i]but he doesn't seem to get nearly as excited as I do[/i] ...[/b]

I honestly feel embarrassed when i'm holding my niece and DH just kind of looks the other way, he makes excuses for not wanting to hold her. [b]Is there any way to make him more engaged? I feel as if he's coming off as rude to my family.[/b]

We don't have kids yet. I've asked him about it and got upset because I felt like he just didn't care about my family. [b]He said he would be more interested in his own children - not other peoples.[/b] I don't know if this is acceptable to me or not ...[/quote]

OP - you are an idiot of epic proportions. First, I don't think that ANYONE would be particularly happy with having ILs in their lives 2-3 times a week. But, you DH enjoys himself when he is with them, he just isn't AS EXCITED AS YOU ARE??? What does that even mean and why would you expect this from him. It's not his family.

And your feeling of embarrassment is based on your perceptions - that is something YOU need to get over, it's not your husbands issue. Especially since your perception and expectations are insane to begin with.

And finally, why did you marry a man that was unacceptable to you? I am assuming he didn't change over night and that when you dated, he acted the same way towards your family... How are you figuring this out just now if you spend so much time with your family?[/quote]

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