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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think what's bothering you is that you have to do both morning and evening duty (the dressing/feeding/dropping off/picking up/feeding). It would bother me too. A lot. This not pitching in for 10 minutes is just your way to focus on the frustration, but I don't know that it would help much even if he did.

Is there any way for him to rearrange the schedule to do either the morning or evening shift? (I assume no, but have to ask.) Since he isn't doing either one, [b]I think you absolutely must tell him it's his job to get your son ready--not to help you get him ready. You'll be in the car at the agreed time and if he doesn't bring out your son, you drive to work[/b].

You both have professional jobs, there's no reason why you have to do all the child care work. Oh, and until you figure this out, don't have more kids, this will get worse with two drop-offs.[/quote]

If I recall the OP correctly, this is exactly what caused the most recent fight.

OP, I hear you. It's not that you have to do it all yourself because he's at work, it's that he's at home and WON'T help you. And he won't help you when you're begging for help and need it the most. I get like this sometimes with my DH (frustrated because I feel like he's not helping with whatever), and when I finally reach the breaking point, he realizes that he needs to step in. Does your DH ever get to that point, where he realizes you need really really need him to do something for you (on a regular basis, not just once or twice then he stops) and then actually follows through? If not, you need some marriage counseling, because something has to give.[/quote]

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