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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.
You are missing the point, I think?
I WANTED to hook up with him and couldn't! (because of a strange situation with friends and coworkers and whose car we had and how far away from our homes we were)
I wanted to get in touch to let him know I wasn't blowing him off and was interested on another night. 
I appreciate the responses but perhaps we are in different places? 
We are young and single and I am not necessarily looking for a relationship.

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Hi OP, you seem really cool.  I replied to you upthread about him texting you Monday or not at all.  A bit more of my wisdom for you.....

1) He has a girlfriend.  That is why he didn't text you or respond to you.  If he was truly single, based on the chemistry you described and his wanting to sleep with you that night, he would at least have replied to you on social media.  If for no other reason, to keep you simmering on the back burner, "in case of emergency, text OP" status.  That he didn't even respond indicates he realizes he can get in trouble with his girlfriend and he realizes its not worth the risk of texting with a girl he isn't sleeping with.  Men are dogs.  Especially handsome men who can woo a woman over drinks and get her to the point of almost going home with him.

2) His sharing emotional stories with you, they are very authentic versions of him, but I will tell you why he shared them:  a) he was very comfortable talking to you (go OP!) which is a compliment to you that you put him at ease to do so; but also b) people love talking about themselves.  If you give someone booze and a microphone, they will talk about themselves.  In fact, when I was single, I learned that what made me a great date was asking women questions, and letting them talk....about themselves.

Better that you didn't sleep with him.  He would have ghosted you.  Have fun in the dating world, it will be over before you know it! [/quote]

Op here,
Yes, more great points, thank you. Makes sense to me. I appreciate the "it's not you it's him" version of events :)
I actually have dates on Friday and Saturday lined up so I'm pretty much over it but sincerely appreciate all the help for navigating this in the future.[/quote]

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