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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would never voluntarily step away from the workforce and lessen my earning potential. What if my husband dies or we get divorced?
That is worse than my kids having different caretakers for 1/3 of the week when they are young. Also the kids eventually go to school so what do the SAHMs think then?[/quote]

Why does everyone always bring up school as though it’s the great equalizer?

Stay home or work, I don’t care (and I have done both) but does summer vacation not exist in your worlds?  School breaks?  Snow days?  Teacher workdays?  Before and after care because the school day isn’t as long as work day?

Tl;dr Even when the kids start school, they are still spending significantly more time with a SAHP than they would be with a WOHP.[/quote]

We walk the kids to school at 7:15, they are home by 3:15, our neighbor walks the kids home and we walk theirs to school.  My husband works European hours so he is with them until I’m logging out at 5. Not sure how you being at home is so much better than our setup. [/quote]

Nobody said anything about it being better or worse, doofus.  I said that SAHP spends more time with the kids than WOHP, even once the kids are school aged.  The biggest and most obvious example (which I listed and you ignored) is that two to three month stretch of time known to most of us plebes as summer break.

This is a simple matter of math.  Stop being so ridiculous and defensive.[/quote]

SAHM here. We travel more than most of my kids’ friends’ families. We have time and money. I don’t necessarily think our travel experiences are better than their friends who attend overnight camps. They also travel but just not as much. Our kids play the same sports and attend the same camps and trainings.

When I used to work, I put a lot of effort into finding the most fun and quality camps for my kids. We usually did one big summer vacation. We did a weekend or 2 at a local beach like Rehoboth. I don’t think my kids were missing out because I worked.

There are some kids who seem to generally be falling behind whether it is sports or academically. I see some parents of teens who leave them alone and the teens don’t always use their time wisely. They are too old for camp and don’t need childcare. If you want your kid to go to a top college and your kid has a lot of activities, it is a lot of work for parents. I find this more challenging than just planning an outing to the zoo or pumpkin patch.[/quote]

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