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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I couldn’t have lived with myself if I would have outsourced my motherhood.  My sons didn’t know what processed food was when they were kids, and didn’t sit and watch TV until probably age five except for the occasional “Sesame Street”. We spent days at the library, and they came home and devoured piles of books. They are now both very successful, and may have ended up the same way regardless, but raising them is just not something I could have let someone else do. [/quote]

I couldn’t have lived with myself if I hadn’t shared parenting responsibilities equitably with my husband. My sons didn’t think women were maids when they were little, and didn’t understand that in many marriages, men view their wives as their servants. They are now very successful, with happy marriages of their own, and their own kids that are also ambitious. We are all very close. They may have ended up the same way regardless, but modeling a marital model with an in-built power imbalance and an expectation that women act as maids was not something I could do. [/quote]

I honestly don’t think kids really think about their moms and their moms’ working status when they are adults.

My mom was a working mom and she didn’t have any impact on my twenties. It isn’t like I went to a top college and grad school to not work. I did work and did not expect or plan to stay home. When my baby was born, I didn’t expect to change so much. I hated going back to work and leaving him. I ended up getting a less demanding job and had a second child and worked PT. I stopped working altogether when I had my third. I never thought I would be a SAHM. This maternal want to be with my kids was stronger than my previous career ambitions.[/quote]

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