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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]When one of my kids was 14, she was penalized for missing one (JV) high school game to come to the hospital when I was having breast lumps removed and worried I had cancer (thankfully I did not).[/b] I thought it was shitty of the coach but didn't say a word. It also wasn't something life threatening, I realize..I said it was ok for her to go to the game but she decided to come for the surgery instead. She wasn't kicked off the team but wasn't allowed to play a game or two and was chewed out for missing one.single.game. She did later go on to college with a full athletic scholarship for her sport. 
Anyway, yeah it sucks he may miss the wedding but just let it go and don't worry about it OP :)[/quote]

This is INSANE. It's beyond any kind of proportion. Penalizing a child for wanting to be near a parent in such a serious situation... wow.

Shit like this is the reason why I will never, ever put a child of mine in sports of any kind. They can exercise by playing outdoors, they can go to a gym when they're old enough if that's their thing, but I don't want anything to do with the kind of madness you describe. Anything *remotely* like that is poisonous and I don't ever want it in the mind of any child of mine.[/quote]
Look, don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Because the PP's daughter's coach was an obvious idiot, I wouldn't ban your kid from sports based on stories such as this. I'm the PP who's DS plays football at Stanford and I can tell you NONE of his coaches throughout the years would have EVER done something like what the PP describes. From the earliest days of 3rd grade Pop Warner to Coach Shaw, my son has never been chewed out or benched because he missed a game due to a family emergency or  major event. While the PP complains about it she wasn't willing to say anything and she kept her DD on the team thereby implying the behavior was OK. Its complacent parents that allow these toxic coaches to keep on 'coaching'.[/quote]

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