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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here

I’m an adoptive parent so I’m not denigrating anyone else’s experience.

However, there are no adoptive parents involved in my son’s situation. He’s a bio parent and so is his gf. No one’s adopting anyone … it was a thought before she went into labor.

But then it all unfolded and the mother of Kevin (aka my son’s girlfriend) got to make all the choices.

The baby exists and his mom has him. I have tried in the last 3 weeks of my only experience in this to support her. I’m not going for a hero award.

But I do hope I have a profound background of experience where I’m at the age where I’m definitely not buying a trip to Puerto Rico over supporting this traumatized new mom and helping give her supplies for this new baby that is my son’s child.

Like come on. What is the money for[/quote]

It’s quite possible that the baby is not your sons or that there is some mental illness going on with the mother. She may be unfit and adoption should still be on the table. You are enabling dysfunction by being her financial support person.[/quote]

There is absolutely no inkling whatsoever that adoption was EVER on the table.  Shut up, you vulture.  Stop rooting for someone’s family to be torn apart.  You ghoul.[/quote]

How would you know whether there was no inkling of adoption on the table? This is NOT a family. It’s a mentally ill mother who is no prepared to be a mother and a blindsided father. Their relationship is over. There is no coming back from a break of trust in something like this. Your son will rightfully never fully believe that she had no idea or never trust that she isn’t intellectually challenged. Their relationship presence of a boundary stomping grandma with delusional Norman Rockwell visions is not going to help things.

Adoption really is best for the baby in this situation. He could be adopted by a couple that is ready both emotionally and financially as well as thrilled to have a baby. Stop being selfish or at least leave them alone to deal with this.

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You don’t get to decide for this family, nor define family. Kevin has a mom that loves him and a grandmother that has the means and willingness to provide support as needed. All of you who are painting Kevin’s dad as a victim are way off base. He was intimate with this woman throughout the cryptic pregnancy and he didn’t notice anything either! Furthermore, he’s a 27 year old man and knows how conception occurs. There’s always a chance birth control will fail. He shouldn’t be protected from paying child support. Why would anyone want their innocent grandchild to suffer.[/quote]

Is this OP?
If not how do you know? Other granny? Crazy baby mama?

Nobody said the actual father should not pay support. If the son is, well pay. But there is no law requiring him to move in, marry Ms Crypic, etc.  But really, if you were missionary with a woman with. 6 pound baby you must notice she was a bit bloated, lol. 
Personally even if Ms Cryptic was for a while, I think she knew before she told OP and maybe held off to further enmesh him.[/quote]

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