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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My college freshman daughter has asked a few guys for coffee/breakfast this year and they have said no. 
The latest was this week and they guy basically said he was busy and would be busy 'all month."

She's lovely, thin, smart, well dressed, etc. 
I have no idea what's wrong. She has no trouble making female friends, has a great group who are also lovely. 
She's about to give up entirely. I joke to myself that maybe she should date women. [/quote]

You are omitting something.[/quote]

I'm really not. She is pretty, thin, smart and the boys just turn her down. These are kids she's been in class with. One was a lunch invite. 'hey, do you want to meet for lunch?" 
I have no idea what is going on. 
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First of all, good for her. I know it is frustrating now, but she should not be discouraged: she will do well, just keep it up. I don’t know the specifics, but I remember (had only one previous long-term girlfriend at the time) being asked out in college but I was too clueless to know it at the time. So when someone said we should study together sometime, and was vague about specifics, I was probably non-committal in my answer because I generally studied alone. But if she was very specific, like, can you help me go over this tonight or tomorrow? We can meet in the cafe. How about 8? I would have been like, “sure.” And then during the “study session” I would maybe have put two and two together.

My point is, don’t express general interest in doing something. Be very specific. Sometimes women think the general interest is enough, and guys will then take it from there, immediately get the message they are being asked out, and then take charge of arranging the details. I would not assume that…[/quote]

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